Before I continue writing our story, I need to let you know that our lives are not peaches and cream. There is absolutely, and I mean absolutely, no way for two highly opinionated, stubborn people to not have issues. Just ain’t gonna happen. I promise.
I can’t even pinpoint the exact time it happened but our children were all still home and in school. Guessing, I’d say probably around 15 years ago. I just know it began when all of our children would at least stay in bed until 7:30am on Saturday mornings. We were early risers and found ourselves enjoying conversation and coffee. Hence, began what we commonly refer to as “coffee talk”.
During our coffee talk, we spend time talking about everything. We don’t hold anything back. Most of our conversations, especially early on, centered around our children and their friends. We would discuss potential issues we saw in our children and especially behavioral changes we saw with certain friends.
We would also talk about things we liked and disliked about each other. Things that bothered us or behviors or attitudes that we didn’t like. We did. Honestly, we still do. We are just not afraid to share how we feel.
There have been times over the past 24 years when there have been times that I’ve just wanted to walk and so has he. These are the times we’ve had to be painfully honest with each other. These are the times where we’ve had to be raw with each other and not hold anything back.
Both of us have always been aware that we are one choice away from being unfaithful. We know how easily we could get sucked into the idea that ”the pasture is greener on the other side” However, from our previous experiences, we also know the pain of unfaithfulness and committed, early on, to fight hard and remain faithful.
If you think it’s been easy for us, think again. We began our lives together with the ready-made family. Two young whippersnappers, ages 3 & 5, are not an ideal way to begin a union. We were and are still determined. And I believe that’s what has made the biggest difference.
We know the value communication.
If you’re in any relationship right now and you’re not honestly and openly communicating with each other; I encourage you to start your own version of ”coffee talk”. It’s amazing how much it will change your lives.
Think about it like this:
Maxwell house: Good to the last drop
Folger’s: The best part of waking up
Starbucks Doubleshot: Bring on the day